Attachment Style Quiz

For the following 40 questions, please indicate to what extent you agree or disagree with each statement. Choose your answer based on how you feel right now, not how you've felt in the past or would like to feel.

1 = Rarely/Never 2 = Occasionally 3 = Frequently 4 = Usually/Always

1. It is easy for me to be close and connected with people in my life.

1 2 3 4

2. I take it personally when a person who is important to me makes plans with other people.

1 2 3 4

3. I feel stressed when people in my life approach me and want to connect.

1 2 3 4

4. I seek approval and reassurance from others.

1 2 3 4

5. If I hit a glitch with a person who is important to me, it is easy for me to apologize and smooth over our differences.

1 2 3 4

6. I have difficulty identifying and achieving goals in life.

1 2 3 4

7. I minimize the importance of close relationships in my life.

1 2 3 4

8. I tend to lose myself by over-focusing on others in relationships.

1 2 3 4

9. I feel problems I face daily are unresolvable.

1 2 3 4

10. I have difficulty reaching out for help and do many of life's tasks alone.

1 2 3 4

11. I am comfortable using alone time to learn more about myself.

1 2 3 4

12. It is difficult for me to set realistic boundaries.

1 2 3 4

13. I attempt to discover and meet the needs of important people in my life.

1 2 3 4

14. I feel more comfortable giving help than receiving it.

1 2 3 4

15. I second-guess myself,wishing I had said or done something differently.

1 2 3 4

16. I have an exaggerated startle response when others approach me unexpectedly.

1 2 3 4

17. I prefer to have space away from important people in my life unless I invite the connection.

1 2 3 4

18. Important people in my life comment that I am controlling.

1 2 3 4

19. Important people in my life complain that I am too clingy.

1 2 3 4

20. I prefer casual rather than committed relationships.

1 2 3 4

21. I have difficulty believing I am worthy of the love that important people in my life express.

1 2 3 4

22. I expect the worst to happen in my relationships.

1 2 3 4

23. I feel comfortable expressing my own needs.

1 2 3 4

24. It is hard for me to be left alone because I feel stressed, abandoned, hurt, and/or angry.

1 2 3 4

25. I prefer relationships with things or animals instead of people.

1 2 3 4

26. I am able to set goals and work toward achieving them.

1 2 3 4

27. I disconnect, dissociate, or get confused when remembering difficult childhood experiences.

1 2 3 4

28. I tend to alternate between being overly dependent on important people in my life and pulling away completely.

1 2 3 4

29. I believe I have a purpose in life that impacts the world around me.

1 2 3 4

30. I find it difficult to maintain eye contact with others.

1 2 3 4

31. I express my feelings in a healthy way.

1 2 3 4

32. In high-stress situations I resort to Fight,Flight or Freeze responses.

1 2 3 4

33. It is easier for me to think things through rationally than to express myself emotionally.

1 2 3 4

34. It is easy for me to get engaged in close relationships with other people.

1 2 3 4

35. I tend to become over-emotional and have extreme reactions.

1 2 3 4

36. Despite wishing to be close to important people in my life, I have a paralyzing fear of losing the relationships.

1 2 3 4

37. I trust that others will be there for me when I need them.

1 2 3 4

38. When I lose a relationship,I might first experience separation elation and then become depressed.

1 2 3 4

39. I would like to have closer relationships with other people,but I find it difficult to trust them.

1 2 3 4

40. I feel upset when facing criticism or disapproval.

1 2 3 4

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